Moving On, Moving Along

Most of us have had experienced a relationship break up in one way or another, some better than others. The feeling of having your heart think and everything you thought you knew about your relationship to vanish and disappear into thin air. And the pain of knowing that all what once was is no more. Those who haven't experienced it, should not worry about it, since it will only work out for the best even though it may feel quite the opposite. Breakups should be seen more of a blessing in disguise, since they show us how bad some relationships can be and to learn from such an experience.

Yet what I don't understand is why, in our culture we must make other people feel pain over out of our expense. It also raises the question why some relationships start when, astrology speaking, they would never, ever work out. Sadly though most of those fall apart leaving one person who was in the relationship emotionally scarred. 

Our culture seems to influence everyone is the 'choice' of finding the 'right' life partner. The choice itself is the problem, since for us to find someone who clicks with us we need to get to them really well. However the term 'right' is incorrect, since there can never be a singular person to fit that assumption. It would be better off to look at it as there are multiple 'right' partners, and there are even more almost right people out there. Just then the problem is distinguishing the person you have almost everything in common with from another person you have very little in common. That is where i wish there was a better system in this world to meet people... anyways this is off topic.

Moving on from a harsh break up/divorce or any other similar situation it is hard. It would be quick it takes time, but time can only heal the wounds when enough time has passed. The toughest part of moving on is, when you have those day and you remember and recall memories of the past you wish you could forget for several years. Another thing which would be really important to have would be someone, even a counsellor, to talk to about what you went through. I am on the fence though of going to one since of my past and having overcoming depression only 4 years ago. I know I am strong enough to keep my head about the water, but i am worried that this failed relationship is slowly dragging me down.

Moving along with life, is just as hard as moving on. Since all those things you use to do and all the time you would put aside for your previous relationship now is free again. Trying to keep yourself busy is easy or hard depending on the person, and the busier you are the better off you'll be. 

All I would like to do is start another relationship, but meeting the right person is the hardest part....

Acquaintances & Friends

I have failed my challenge to myself on the first week of my blog, sorry all. I have too many things, assignments, and projects to get done in such a short amount of time it was bound that something was gonna slip. So my new goal to keep everyone up to date is to post mostly during the week and keep to a minimum of 30-31 posts a month.

Friendship is one of those thing none of us could do without, we need social contact. But in the world today there are so many ways, orders and hierarchies of who we view better than other friends. Its like the value of amity has gone from worth a lot to priceless, since today we can literally dump someone with a click of a button on facebook. So where does this leave us? We could meet someone on Monday, get to know them on Tuesday, hang out on Wednesday, Argue with them on Thursday and Dump them of Friday. Not that, that would ever happen in real live in such short time.

Acquaintances, Friends, Close Friends, True Friends, Best Friends the list goes on and on about how we define who is trusted more than others. The whole idea of organizing people into categorizes isn't new at all, and has been used in the past (i.e. where race comes from in our culture) to define who is superior to those below. However in the case of friendship, it more goes along the lines of Trust (which i shall go into more detail in a later post) and how well we get along with them. The better we get along, the more we trust and the better friends the two people become (as everyone knows). So organizing and ordering has some good things about it, but what about the people we come across who seem nice at first then stab us in our backs?
They are (hopefully) far and few between, since we would learn (hopefully) after running into the first person like that to avoid them until they realize how much they are hurting others. But chances are, those type of people have slipped through our judgment and got into our circles only to wreak havoc before getting kicked out. I would have to say that at least most of the time we cannot avoid these situation because we do not know the person's personality until we become friends with them. So sadly this is unavoidable and bound to happen on numerous occurrences.

On the other extreme... we can come across people we get along with for a bit before it goes sour and we end up blocking them trying to avoid them until a later time. But what does blocking achieve? If the person has crossed you and then blocked you, making it impossible to make up, doesn't that mean it would only get a hell of a lot worse when they try and get back into contact in the future? Most likely, that is if they see it. Any angry, rage, or revenge directed towards a former friends followed by stonewalling is like throwing fuel onto the fire hoping it will burn itself out. It WON'T! It will only grow and burn hotter and stronger, so when you do try and make amends it would be like dealing with an inferno instead of a small fire. But then again everyone is entitled to their own decisions and who they choose to be their friends.

Friendship is just one of those things we all take for granted. Without it we would be lonely and depressed. But in order to have friends you must treat your friends like you want to be treated. 'Cause what you put out in our world is guaranteed to come back to you.