Moving On, Moving Along

Most of us have had experienced a relationship break up in one way or another, some better than others. The feeling of having your heart think and everything you thought you knew about your relationship to vanish and disappear into thin air. And the pain of knowing that all what once was is no more. Those who haven't experienced it, should not worry about it, since it will only work out for the best even though it may feel quite the opposite. Breakups should be seen more of a blessing in disguise, since they show us how bad some relationships can be and to learn from such an experience.

Yet what I don't understand is why, in our culture we must make other people feel pain over out of our expense. It also raises the question why some relationships start when, astrology speaking, they would never, ever work out. Sadly though most of those fall apart leaving one person who was in the relationship emotionally scarred. 

Our culture seems to influence everyone is the 'choice' of finding the 'right' life partner. The choice itself is the problem, since for us to find someone who clicks with us we need to get to them really well. However the term 'right' is incorrect, since there can never be a singular person to fit that assumption. It would be better off to look at it as there are multiple 'right' partners, and there are even more almost right people out there. Just then the problem is distinguishing the person you have almost everything in common with from another person you have very little in common. That is where i wish there was a better system in this world to meet people... anyways this is off topic.

Moving on from a harsh break up/divorce or any other similar situation it is hard. It would be quick it takes time, but time can only heal the wounds when enough time has passed. The toughest part of moving on is, when you have those day and you remember and recall memories of the past you wish you could forget for several years. Another thing which would be really important to have would be someone, even a counsellor, to talk to about what you went through. I am on the fence though of going to one since of my past and having overcoming depression only 4 years ago. I know I am strong enough to keep my head about the water, but i am worried that this failed relationship is slowly dragging me down.

Moving along with life, is just as hard as moving on. Since all those things you use to do and all the time you would put aside for your previous relationship now is free again. Trying to keep yourself busy is easy or hard depending on the person, and the busier you are the better off you'll be. 

All I would like to do is start another relationship, but meeting the right person is the hardest part....