Part II - Trivial Love

I realized this morning that i forgot a few other things attributed to relationships. One being cheating and the other the issue about when to have kids. As they are not inherently connected to love and moreover link to lust, these thou separate should still be consider as part of the whole larger topic.

So consider yourself the type who cheats on others... what would that be like and how would that feel?
The way it seems to play out again and again regardless whether the guy or girl does it is because there is some flaw in the relationship (that the person who is going to cheat) does not understand or does not know how to resolve. The other case is, the relationship began out of lust and was purely out of desperation. In the second case it is more likely to end in with cheating when the other person grows tired of their lover. I for one have only been cheated on so i do not understand why people do it in the first place, so all of this is speculation. My guess is the person would feel good at first but eventually their feelings will return for the person they cheated on and well, it could ultimately end with them ending their current relationship because they are unsure of their feelings.

Now consider yourself the person who gets cheated on... how would that feel like?
Imagine everything is fine and then in one day your world is turn upside down and the person you once love now doesn't want to be with you anymore. It is a heart wrenching experience and extremely painful to go through for anyone. You are left questioning yourself; why did this happen? why did it end? why did i deserve this? Depending how many people cared about your relationship and heard about it ending some of them will stem in and help you get back onto your feet. As for the person who ended it, they are probably still feeling invincible and invulnerable, thinking they are right about everything they did. Don't dwell on the past, especially if you are trying to get on with your life. Just remember to give yourself time to heal and time to recover from this. Being cheated on is one of those things that is sometimes inevitable but good things can come out of it.
Moving on, from a harsh event will only make you stronger. Also learn from such an experience and in my opinion be a bit more picky your start a relationship with.

As for kids depending where you are in the world and the culture, it might be normal to have kids when you are young. But in most of parts of the world it is trending to having kids later and closer to when the couple is in their early to mid 30s. Some cultures require marriage too before having kids. And of course the cost of raising them and giving them a life requires a lot of time and money.

For those wondering about me, I am still in recovering from having my heart ripped out from my last relationship. I feel emotionally scarred from the experience because of how sudden and rude it ended, but hope to eventually meet the right girl. But that is easier said than done when there is 7 billion people in this world.